Self Meetings

We are all talking to ourselves every moment of our lives, except during certain portions of our sleeping cycle. We're seldom even aware that we're doing it. We all have a running commentary in our heads on events and our reactions to them.

You are your most important critic. There is no opinion so vitally important to your wellbeing as the opinion you have of yourself. As you read this, you're talking to yourself right now. 

-Let's see if I understand what he means by that… 

-How does that compare with my experiences?

–I'll make note of that. 

–Try that tomorrow.

-I already knew that…

-I already do that. 

I believe this self-talk, this psycholinguistics or language of the mind can be controlled to work for us, 

especially in the building of self-confidence and creativity. 

• Be aware of the silent conversation you have with yourself. Are you a nurturing coach or a critic? Do you reinforce your own success or negate it? Are you comfortable saying to yourself. 

-Things are working out well.

-I am reaching my financial goals. 

-I will do it better next time.

• When winners fail, they view it as a temporary inconvenience, a learning experience, an isolated event, and a stepping-stone instead of a stumbling block.

• When winners succeed, they reinforce that success, by feeling rewarded rather than guilty about the 

achievement and the applause.

• When winners are paid a compliment, they simply respond: "Thank you." They accept value graciously when it is paid. They pay value in their conversations with themselves and with other people.

When you feel yourself getting stressed out or you begin losing your focus, walk away from everything for a change of scenery. Allow yourself to focus on another task. Some people, read, juggle, or exercise to get away from their mind blocks. 

When you return to this important task, you will have shifted from your stressed-out mind set to a new relaxed and ready to conquer attitude.

A mark of an individual with healthy self-esteem is the ability to spend time alone, without constantly needing other people around. Being comfortable and enjoying solitary time reveals inner peace and centering. 

People who constantly need stimulation or conversation with others are often a bit insecure and thus need to be propped up by the company of others.

I wish You Great Success.