Saturday, October 13, 2007

Attitude UP

Everyone knows that a positive attitude is key to the successful life. But what happens when things go wrong?

"Instead of spending your time thinking about how bad things are, think about how good they will be!"
 
What happens when circumstances deal us a blow? We have a tendency to let our attitudes take the dive along with our state of affairs. Life deals us setbacks, both minor and major, on a regular basis, but if we are going to be successful, we need to know how to deal with them and keep our attitudes intact! We need practical tools to help us understand how we can go about keeping our attitude up, when the circumstances are down. 

Here are some thoughts to help us do so:

Take some time-out. I'm sure you are aware of what happens. You are going about your day, and everything seems to be going well, when out of nowhere disaster strikes. All of your best-laid plans begin to tumble. Sometimes circumstances surprise us, and we react. Unfortunately, this often compounds the problem because by reacting we tend to operate out of our weaknesses instead of our strengths. We make decisions that are not well thought out. We function with a bad attitude that says, "I can't believe this is happening!"

The next time circumstances turn against you, take some time to just step back from the problem and think. This will enable you to deal with the issue at hand rationally, instead of emotionally. It will allow you to put your state of mind back into its proper place. It gives you the opportunity to choose your attitude as you face the circumstances at hand. Remember that we don't have to do something right now. Go grab a cup of coffee and relax little bit. By doing this you function with you being in control and not the circumstances.

Keep your eye on the goal. A second step in keeping our attitude in the proper place is to make sure we keep the important things important. One of the biggest problems with trouble is that it gets your focus off where it should be. When I experience difficult circumstances and people ask me how it is going, I tell them, 
"I am just keeping my eye on the goal." we should be focused on the goal and moving forward.

Focus on solutions, not problems. The squeaky wheel gets the oil, the old saying goes. Negative circumstances don't sit idly by. They scream for our attention. When we face difficult circumstances, we tend to dwell on them. We talk about them, fret about them, and give them way too much attention. 

Have meetings on the solutions and how you will implement them. Don't let yourself or other team members complain. Encourage them to solve, with an emphasis on the positive results that will come from doing so. Then take some time to put these solutions down on paper, so you can monitor your progress.

Get some positive input. The mind tends to build on itself when we begin to go in one direction. 

One thing we must do is get our thoughts back on track with positive ideas. When circumstances have got you against the emotional wall: 
-get with a good friend who can encourage you. 
-Listen to a motivational CD. 
-Pick up a good book and give it a read. 

Whatever external influence you can get to put your attitude back on the positive side of the tracks. 
Start plugging good things into our minds to fuel our attitudes.

One of the greatest internal powers we have is the power to control our thoughts. 
Spend time dwelling on the good things about your life or job instead of the problems. 
Think about positive things, things you enjoy that give you a sense of happiness and peace. 

There is an old childhood song that says, "Count your blessings, name them one by one." 
That is great advice! Let your positive attitude develop from within as well as from without. 
This makes all the difference!

Remember that circumstances are not forever. This too shall pass. There will be a time in the future when circumstances will change, and you will be on the mountain instead of the valley. 

Positive Reflection:
Q. Do you have a habit of reflection before responding?
Q. Do you have a habit of keeping your eye on the goal?
Q. Do you focus on solutions or problems?
Q. Do you give yourself positive outside influence?
Q. Do you have a habit of telling yourself the good?
Q. Do you remind yourself that nothing is forever?


I wish You Great Success.

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